Monthly Archives: February 2010

How do I make them fall in love with me? (a.k.a., “Hope is the Bitch”)

Posted on 02/28/2010 by

“How can I make the person I like like me back?” The heartbreak in this question just kills me, and I can scarcely bring myself to respond, so hopeless is the answer. But. It’s a useful illustration of the important … Continue reading →

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do you know when you want it?

Posted on 02/27/2010 by

This is the sort of thing I forget people don’t know. Female sexual response is typically characterized by “responsive desire,” while male sexual response is more likely characterized by “spontaneous desire.” (I’m going for biological categories rather than social categories … Continue reading →

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homage to the clitoris

Posted on 02/25/2010 by

It’s the hokey pokey – it’s what it’s all about. It’s two turn tables and a microphone – it’s where it’s at. It’s a Visa card – it’s everywhere you want to be. It’s the clitoris and I can’t say … Continue reading →

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“grim, dowdy, aggrieved and passé”

Posted on 02/25/2010 by

Thanks to Rachel for this article by Susan J. Douglas, deliciously written and dazzlingly clear about a topic I’ve found to be, at best, operose to discuss unless you’re glad to sound like a shrew, a prude, or an irrelevancy. … Continue reading →

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what women want (1)

Posted on 02/23/2010 by

Thanks to Brody’s useful comment, I’ve decided to spend a bunch of time focused on helping men understand women. We are, it’s true, a complex stew of contradictory feelings and ideas. We are mysterious and sometimes demanding. But we’re AMAZING … Continue reading →

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