Monthly Archives: May 2010

arousal is never aversive (motivation 4)

Posted on 05/31/2010 by

So where were we? Ah yes, I mentioned recently that arousal is never aversive. I mean this in the technical sense. As in, sex is always appetitive. Rewarding. I do NOT mean that there are no occasions when humans find … Continue reading →

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Facebook told me to write about love, so…

Posted on 05/29/2010 by

Up early this morning, with the little old ladies and the farmer’s market crowd, I walked the dog and then took my car to get inspected. It’s a glamorous life I lead. I’m sitting in a park now, waiting for … Continue reading →

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a burst of shameless self-promotion

Posted on 05/28/2010 by

Hey folks, I’m excited to be able to say that The Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man is available in PDF and formats compatible with iPad, iPhone, Android, Blackberry, etc as well as Kindle. And it’s only … Continue reading →

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individual differences (motivation 3)

Posted on 05/28/2010 by

I thought I had done a post about this already, but I apparently I haven’t. This is an important one that I’ll be referring back to a lot. CAVEAT: I’ve been startled that comments and emails about the other motivation … Continue reading →

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your brain is a liar (motivation part 2)

Posted on 05/26/2010 by

The story so far: sex is not a drive. A drive is a motivational system designed to return an organism to a baseline state. Hunger motivates you to eat so you can be nourished. Thirst motivate you to drink so … Continue reading →

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