Monthly Archives: April 2011

enthusiastic, willing, unwilling, coerced

Posted on 04/30/2011 by

This a post about consent, so insert trigger warning here, as appropriate. I have a student who… Pause. That phrase, “I have a student who…,” indicates a quantity of work and thought and conversation and reading by both me and … Continue reading →

Posted in communication, relationships, sexual politics | 22 Comments

the doctor is in

Posted on 04/27/2011 by

Now here’s something you might not expect me to feel ambivalent about: it’s the New York Times reporting about vibrators being sold in drugstores. Ya’ll know I am, like, ALL ABOUT women’s sexual pleasure. Totally. And vibrators are outstanding because … Continue reading →

Posted in anatomy, gender, media, orgasm, sexual politics | 20 Comments

the other problem with risk

Posted on 04/22/2011 by

I mentioned once that there was something important to say about risk and perception at the individual level versus the population level. Let’s try saying it this way: Every time I put my shoes on, my dog gets excited. “No, … Continue reading →

Posted in contraception, sciencey goodness, STIs | 4 Comments

sex educator transference

Posted on 04/21/2011 by

A student who is becoming a sex educator asked me how to cope with the problem of people perceiving a sex educator as sexually available just because they talk about sex in public. This is what I told her: So, … Continue reading →

Posted in emily, sexual politics | 8 Comments

thy rod and thy staff

Posted on 04/19/2011 by

It’ll tell you something about how my life is going lately when I tell you that on Friday my computer broke and then I went to a memorial service for someone almost young enough to be my daughter, almost. It’s … Continue reading →

Posted in kink | 16 Comments