about Emily


Emily is a college health educator in Massachusetts. In 2006, she completed a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a concentration in Human Sexuality. She also holds a MS in Counseling Psychology and a BA in Psychology with minors in Cognitive Science and Philosophy. She’s worked for nearly two decades in the field of sexuality education. As comfortable in a dungeon as she is at an academic meeting, Emily is determined to promote social justice through science!

The blog is an effort to combine the three crucial ingredients of a sex column: good science, good writing, good advice. If you find two, that’s pretty good; hardly ever do you get all three. Forcing yourself to generate 500 words every day is really good practice.

Emily’s funnier in real life (and hardly ever speaks in the third person). She’s also the author of The Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man, The Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, and A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships, all of which you should buy in triplicate and then memorize.

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  1. So I tried your advice about how to get the less sexual partner to be more involved. I did not initiate, and after my partner and I read your article several times, we decided to try it full on.

    It failed horribly. Nothing changed.

    I don’t think you should give advice, in fact, 3 of my other GF’s tried this too with their bf’s, and low and behold all 4 of us are single 2 months later.

    Why don’t you just tell women to be assertive and if their man is weak to leave? That would have been MUCH more helpful

    • It sounds like, far from “nothing changing,” a LOT changed – the relationship ended. Which is the same result you’d have had from “be assertive or leave him,” right? Only it ended after trying respectfully and mutually to improve your sexual connection, rather than imposing what you want on someone who was unwilling. I’d never to tell a GUY “Be assertive and if your woman is weak, just leave,” so I’d never give that advice to women either.

      • emily, do you know which post Jenna B. is referring to? i’ve been reading your blog all day, and the only one i can see that might apply is “the masculinity of a sis-y man”. just curious, as Jenna refers to a “less sexual partner” and not a less sexual male specifically (e.g. i assumed the original post was not specifically about the less sexual male). just curious, as i ended up on your blog in a roundabout way via /r/DeadBedrooms.

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