Of the 600+ posts I’ve written on the blog over the years, here are a few of my favorites, readers’ favorites, and the most popular posts:
HAVE BETTER SEX
These are posts about confidence and joy, sexual arousal, desire, and orgasm.
The most important idea is the dual control model – the brakes and accelerator sexual response mechanism in your brain.
Also: arousal nonconcordance.
What to do with a g-spot, which is related to Why it feels like you have to pee during intercourse.
The 51 Sex Nerds Sex Tips is the most popular of the free eBooks.
And finally: excellent torture.
HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS
These are posts about love, dating, breaking up, making up, and generally getting along.
HAVE A BETTER LIFE
Sex doesn’t happen in a vacuum (unless, ya know, that’s what you’re into); it happens in a context. In your life. Effectively managing your stress and improving your body image are two essential components of that. These are posts about those two things.
Beautiful (my favorite post on the blog, written in memory of a student)
PROMOTE SEXUAL PLEASURE AND JUSTICE!
These are posts about preventing sexual violence, supporting survivors, promoting reproductive rights and health, and embracing the complete diversity of human sexuality.
LOVE THE SCIENCE
These are posts about science. Sometimes they’re directly related to the other topics, but sometimes they’re just way cool science.
These are posts for folks who are just curious about what questions other people ask me, about what kinds of sex other people get up to and why. Curiosity is an excellent tool to bring with you to pretty much any endeavor, including sex!
And here’s a smorgasbord of common questions about how to have better sex.