I can’t wait to read Peggy Orenstein’s new book, Girls and Sex. I was looking forward to it before I listened to this interview on NPR’s Fresh Air, and now I’m champing at the bit. And. The interview makes clear to me something someone who has already read it told me: “Girls & Sex is a deep dive into the problem. Come As You Are is the solution.” The interview – and the book – comes to the conclusion that the problems girls face in the midst of porn culture, rape culture, patriarchy, and all the rest of it,
Dan Savage is FREAKING OUT, you guys, because Sue Carter, the new head of the Kinsey Institute (where I was trained) told a USA Today reporter that she was going to be studying sex in the context of relationships. Let me say first that I think I GET why this triggers so much fear in Dan Savage – indeed, why it prompts him to tell his massive readership that they, too, should “be very, very afraid.” He has been part of a culturally CRUCIAL push to de-“should”-ize sex, to let sex be in a person’s life whatever it wants to
In January I went to Reno and spent about fifteen minutes explaining the two keys to unlock the door to your own authentic sexual wellbeing. [SPOILER: the keys are CONFIDENCE and JOY] And for those who hate videos, here’s a transcript of the talk as it was written (which is not 100% as it was spoken… but almost.) I am a sex educator. It’s the best job in the world. In the fall of 2010 I taught a class called Women’s Sexuality at Smith College. It was a 100-level introductory class, but I shoe-horned in all the science I could
A hundred years ago, I read 50 Shades of Grey and found it to be the worst novel I have ever finished… but I also saw what worked for so many people about the story. I saw, because I am a reader of romance novels. I believe romance novels contribute something important to the world: Romancelandia is pro-woman, pro-sex, pro-pleasure and full of happy endings. And I felt betrayed by 50 Shades because, though it tried, it failed to be any of those things. It did not do what a romance novel is supposed to do. I read romance to experience
Hey everybody! The video of my talk from Chicago Ideas week talk is up! It’s 12 minutes of me Bringing the Science. I had a great time in Chicago and the Ideas Week people treated us speakers like we hung the moon. If you ever get a chance go to, GO. UPDATE: They also posted the short Q&A with all of the sexuality speakers, including me, Chris Donaghue, Abiola Abrams, and Ducky DooLittle. THEY WERE ALL SO FABULOUS.
Our Bodies, Ourselves is raising $100,000 to supports it efforts in promoting women’s health around the world, using evidence-based health education. OBOS was the first book that taught me that I and my female body are normal. Obviously, I love them. In order to support them beyond just making a donation, I’m offering this incentive for any of you who also donte! Want a free copy of Come as You Are? Want additional sex positive goodies? I AM HERE TO HELP. It’s simple: Contribute to OBOS. As much or as little feels right to you. Email me at enagoski at gmail
YOU GUYS. Come as You Are was nominated as one of the top 15 Goodreads Best Science & Technology Book of 2015. This is not a category where you expect to find a sex advice book, so I’m really, really excited – plus it means I’m in the same category as Oliver Sacks’s On the Move, which, if you haven’t read it, is a charming and beautiful book and way more likely to actually win. Also, everyone check out Rachel Swaby’s Headstrong: 52 women who changed science – and the world. Anyway, it’s my first ever book prize nomination, so
In her article at Salon, Rachel Kramer Bussel saved us all the trouble of comprehensively rebutting UFC Women’s Bantamweight Champion Ronda Rousey’s terrible advice to Maxim readers that using lube is “lazy.” If you don’t know why using lube is not just often very pleasurable but also necessary for the health and wellbeing of a person’s body, read Rachel’s piece – and maybe watch this two minute video about arousal nonconcordance: Lube is very often your friend! I know it’s mine! So all that’s left for us is to counteract Ronda’s lube-shaming with some lube pride! This calls for a hashtag.