Chicago Ideas Week video [THRILLING UPDATE] #pleasureisthemeasure

Chicago Ideas Week video [THRILLING UPDATE] #pleasureisthemeasure

Hey everybody! The video of my talk from Chicago Ideas week talk is up! It’s 12 minutes of me Bringing the Science. I had a great time in Chicago and the Ideas Week people treated us speakers like we hung the moon. If you ever get a chance go to, GO. UPDATE: They also posted the short Q&A with all of the sexuality speakers, including me, Chris Donaghue, Abiola Abrams, and Ducky DooLittle. THEY WERE ALL SO FABULOUS.

[UPDATE] a sex book, in the top science & tech books of 2015? yes!

[UPDATE] a sex book, in the top science & tech books of 2015? yes!

YOU GUYS. Come as You Are was nominated as one of the top 15 Goodreads Best Science & Technology Book of 2015. This is not a category where you expect to find a sex advice book, so I’m really, really excited – plus it means I’m in the same category as Oliver Sacks’s On the Move, which, if you haven’t read it, is a charming and beautiful book and way more likely to actually win. Also, everyone check out Rachel Swaby’s Headstrong: 52 women who changed science – and the world.   Anyway, it’s my first ever book prize nomination, so

AASECT update

Just a quick note for folks: I mentioned that I would upload my slides from my talk, “In the Middle… of the Brain: Affective Neuroscience for Sex Professionals,” to my blog.   Here they are.   I also mentioned some worksheets for the dual control model and sexual context and stress management. They are here.   Thank you all for the amazing work you do, in every domain and with every population!

a new metaphor for desire every week

Here’s a thing they don’t tell you about writing a book: once you’ve written the book, you are not done writing. If you’re very, very lucky, they’ll ask you to write a ton of other stuff, too. Stuff that people can read to make them go, “Hey that was interesting! Where can I learn more? Oh, there’s a whole book of this? Great!” I’m very, very lucky, and so I haven’t written any blog posts for a month because I’ve been busy writing for everyone else on the internet. The trick is to come up with a new way of describing the

Ask Me (and three more wicked smart women!) Anything! Friday the 13th at 11am EST

Ask Me (and three more wicked smart women!) Anything! Friday the 13th at 11am EST

It was on this day, five years ago, that Parks and Recreation aired an episode called “Galetine’s Day.” And what you ask is Galentine’s Day? Here’s the official definition: Oh, it’s only the best day of the year. Every February 13th, Leslie Knope and her lady friends leave their husbands and their boyfriends at home and just kick it breakfast style. Ladies celebrating ladies. It’s like Lilith Fair, minus the angst. Plus, frittatas!   As you may remember, Amy Poehler’s memoir Yes, Please! was among the best books I read last year, so I’m in a mood to do anything

10 awesome things to combine with my book, to get free shipping on Amazon

10 awesome things to combine with my book, to get free shipping on Amazon

Do you do this, too? Collect stuff in your Amazon cart until you get over the $35 threshold for free shipping? I can help with that! As you know, I’m doing a free ebook giveaway if you pre-order my book this week. It’s (currently) $12.96 in paperback, which leaves you $22.04 away from free shipping. Here are ten great options that take you just a little bit over that threshold, and provide you with at least three fantastic reads!   1. For Totally Fun Sexytimes Bonk ($13.55), on the weird world of the science of sex, and The Siren ($11.44), sparkingly

sexiness in Springfield, MA tonight.

sexiness in Springfield, MA tonight.

If you’re in the vicinity of western Massachusetts but are on the fence about whether or not to come to tonight’s lecture recital, LOVE illuminated, allow me to offer this argument in favor. And my argument is:   Luke Scott.     He’s our baritone for the evening. He’ll be singing the role of Rapunzel’s prince, among other knee-melting treats.   I know. I cannot fucking wait.  

sex positive in western MA, mid-March!

Folks in the vicinity of western MA, I’m signal boosting this call from the Institute for Sexuality Education & Enlightenment. They’re looking for speakers for the Sexual Attitude Reassessment (SAR). Here’s the info from them: _____ We are doing our SAR class in March in Northampton March 15, 16 & 17. This class requires informal speakers for the the following panels: —Orientation (LGBPA, etc.)  March 16 —Gender Identity— trans*, etc., March 16 —Non-monogamy (poly, open, swingers, etc)  March 17 —Kink (power exchange), March 17 —Sex & disability (of any kind, including cognitive/mental health issues)  March 16 The panels are one hour apiece.