Here’s an awesome question: What vibrator do you recommend for significant stimulation! To which I must respond with another question: Significant stimulation of what? For intense stimulation of the clitoris, the Hitachi Magic Wand – a.k.a., The Cadillac of Vibrators – has been the gold standard for a long time. It’s big, it’s loud, it plugs into the wall, and it will get just about anybody to orgasm, under the right circumstances. It’ll generally run you about $55. I recommend getting a plug-in dimmer with it, since it has just two speeds; the dimmer gives you a wider
Here’s an awesome question: What is squirt? I have never received a good explanation of exactly what this liquid is. “Squirt” – the fluid emitted from the urethral sponge by women who ejaculate is, very specifically, female ejaculate. It’s not urine, it’s not vaginal secretions, it’s just… female ejaculate. In a 2007 paper titled “The female prostate revisited: perineal ultrasound and biochemical studies of female ejaculate” Austrian researchers examined the urine and ejaculate of two 40-something premenopausal women who ejaculated regularly. Result? Biochemically, parameters of the examination of the ﬂuid emitted were clearly different than urine voided prior to
Here’s an awesome question: Apparently I’m supposed to have a g-spot and I have never in my life experienced anything remotely resembling what people say the g-spot feels like. What the hell? I wrote an extremely thorough answer to this question over at Medium, but for those who just want to know what’s up without having to think about research methodology or social justice issues, here ya go: The reality is: Women vary. If you have female genitals, then you have an area between your vagina and your urethra, and there’s a lot going on there. There’s the urethral
Originally written by the romantic euphemism and me for Erika Masturbateer Moen’s Oh Joy Sex Toy, here is The Dirty Normal Official Summary of How the Dual Control Model Works:
A long time between posts because it’s been ultra-busy in my world lately. Among the exciting events was this: You know who that is, the woman in silver? That’s ALICE FRICKIN’ LADAS. Yeah. First author on one of the all-time best books about women’s sexuality, The G-Spot. ALICE FRICKIN’ LADAS. She’s hysterically funny, brilliantly frank, burning with energy, bursting with strongly held opinions, and 89 years old (90 in two months!). She GETS the embodied mind. She lives it. I ADORE her. And I got to hang out with her. Yeah. I don’t have a point, I’m just bragging.
So hey, tomorrow is the first anniversary of the blog! That’s cool, right? In honor of that, let’s take a look back, as mediated by my students’ questions. See, there were a buncha questions in the top hat that I’ve addressed previously on the blog. Here ya go: Not because I think I “should” or “must” enjoy anal sex but because I genuinely think it’s a fun idea and I’d like to find it more pleasurable, what kinds of things can my (male) partner and I do to facilitate it? Relaxation, Lubrication, Communication. Not necessarily in that order. Is the
Readers called me on my bald and unjustified assertion that “women don’t ejaculate.” I should have said that most women don’t ejaculate, though some do sometimes and others do all the time. I mentioned female ejaculation in my introduction to the g-spot: There are some who suggest that [the urethral sponge] is the source of female ejaculation, a relatively rare but normal and healthy phenomenon where a woman ejaculates a large amount of fluid that is definitely not urine but also definitely not vaginal secretions. It looks for all the world like it’s coming from the urethra, but it’s not
I said I’d write about the g-spot, so here it is! Hurrah. This is just an intro – it’s history, what it is, where it is. “G” stands for Grafenberg, the gynecologist who “discovered” the spot. In 1950 he wrote an academic article about the role of the urethra in female sexual response, particularly with regard to orgasm through penetration. It was named the g-spot by researchers Beverly Whipple and John Perry, 30 years after the original article was published. What is it? It’s your prostate… sorta. Every part that a man has, a woman has an equivalent part, a