the dual control model

the dual control model

Originally written by the romantic euphemism and me for Erika Masturbateer Moen’s Oh Joy Sex Toy, here is The Dirty Normal Official Summary of How the Dual Control Model Works:

haptic vagina

Did you see it? The blog post from an engineer who was frustrated by the shortcomings of her remote control vibrator, so she hacked her vagina – not in the axe-related icky way, but in the geek way. She built a remote control for her very nice bullet vibe that used not a dial or a lever, but the movement of the operator’s hand over and around the remote control. Watch the video: I won’t claim I understand any of the engineering involved – I’m a social scientist who never understood calculus, chemistry, or physics, it’s just not how my

how to break your hymen – sincerely this time

how to break your hymen – sincerely this time

[UPDATE: I did a bunch of research to prepare another lecture, and I found out the actual, honest truth about the hymen. The short version is: it doesn’t break; it STRETCHES!]   To my utter astonishment, my tongue-in-cheek post about how to break a hymen without a penis has become one of the most read on the blog, due to people actually SEARCHING THE INTERNET for the phrase “how to break a hymen.” And I feel terribly guilty that there are all these women out there who want to break their hymens and the advice they get from me is slightly

how to break a hymen without a penis

how to break a hymen without a penis

[UPDATE: I did a bunch of research to prepare another lecture, and I found out the actual, honest truth about the hymen. The short version is: it doesn’t break; it STRETCHES!]   [EDIT: If you’re looking for ACTUAL advice about how to break your hymen, read this post instead. The one on this page is more fanciful than helpful.] EDIT 2: MYTHS! about the hymen – totally crucial to understanding your hymen. So there was some confusion during my class tonight; we were talking about hymens and a couple students asked about, like, how big something needed to be to break a

bend it like Beckett

Here is a handjob tip that causes people’s eyes to widen and their heads to tilt thoughtfully to one side. As I’ve mentioned before, the shaft of the penis extends deep inside a man’s body. Much can be done with this fact. So why not do this: once he’s got his erection, lay him on his back, lube up your hands, and start the clock. What I mean is, using upward strokes and alternating hands (right, left, right, left), point his cock toward his chin. Bend it right down so it’s nearly parallel to his body. Then rotate, point it

make a penis happy

make a penis happy

Enough with the political blah blah blah, eh? How about some straight up Sex Advice for Having Better Sex? Here’s one for the folks who have sex with people who have penises. It’s one that I always think everyone knows and then I’m surprised when it turns out people don’t. Quite simple, but it can make all the difference: When you’re dealing with a penis, squeeze up, relax down. Squeeze up. Relax down. Whether using a hand or a vagina or a mouth or a mechanical device… Squeeze up. Relax down. (Not so much with anal sex, you mostly just

what women want (12): leave that clit alone

Women want… … well, some of them want you to leave their clitorises WELL ALONE. Have I mentioned lately that WOMEN VARY? One of the ways that women vary is in the directness of clitoral stimulation that they enjoy/can tolerate. Some women are enthusiastically pro-diddle – they are strongly in favor of you planting a fingertip lightly but firmly just south of the glans clitoris and bobbling it rapidly up and down. Indeed, you may feel very pleased with yourself that you’ve found that a flicky tongue along the clitoral shaft can get your gal to the heights of ecstasy

questions that don’t matter (1)

I firmly believe there’s no such thing as a stupid question. However. That doesn’t mean that all questions are important. There are a lot of questions whose answers just don’t matter – especially questions about sex. There are all these deeply unimportant questions that people are burning to ask, because these are the questions the ridiculous media present as being important. People ask them all the time and I try REALLY hard not to roll my eyes or sigh heavily or otherwise indicate how little I care about the answer, how little the answer will make them healthier or happier,