An awesome question: What’s the most intense vibrator?

An awesome question: What’s the most intense vibrator?

Here’s an awesome question:   What vibrator do you recommend for significant stimulation!   To which I must respond with another question: Significant stimulation of what? For intense stimulation of the clitoris, the Hitachi Magic Wand – a.k.a., The Cadillac of Vibrators – has been the gold standard for a long time. It’s big, it’s loud, it plugs into the wall, and it will get just about anybody to orgasm, under the right circumstances. It’ll generally run you about $55. I recommend getting a plug-in dimmer with it, since it has just two speeds; the dimmer gives you a wider

what 60 years of science says about women’s masturbation

what 60 years of science says about women’s masturbation

I’ve been drawing graphs again. I’m finding it helpful, as a way to get deep inside an ocean of data. This time it’s women’s masturbation. See, the “master narrative” of women’s masturbation has been that women masturbate with vaginal penetration – that’s what most of my students believe (until they take my class) and it’s what I believed until 2000, when I encountered the first research I’d ever read on the subject. It said that about 90% of women masturbate without any penetration at all. From that moment on, I’ve been intrigued… but I lost that original paper. So I dug

the dual control model

the dual control model

Originally written by the romantic euphemism and me for Erika Masturbateer Moen’s Oh Joy Sex Toy, here is The Dirty Normal Official Summary of How the Dual Control Model Works:

Q&A: Can you change your sexual response?

An anonymous someone, female and pansexual, asked: How much is it possible to deliberately change your own sexual response (as opposed to sexuality being largely innate)? And what an important question that is! A useful way to think about the idea of sexual response is to break it into two concepts: arousal and arousability. Arousability refers to your trait levels of SIS and SES (dual control model). Our best understanding at this point is that sexual arousability works along the lines of intelligence, height or any of the other plastic traits: you’re born with a certain range of potential, and

what I’ve learned from Facebook about porn – and what I hope you’ll teach me

So about a month ago I created a Facebook page for the blog, so that I could separate the sex stuff I wanted to post from the Emily-is-a-person-with-a-life stuff. (Feel free to “like” it, if you like, but no pressure. Not everybody wants sex-related stuff in the FB feed!) And being a data-oriented person, it has been FASCINATING to watch what the analytics tell me about what people are interested in. You know what they’re interested in? Things that are funny. And things that are about porn and/or sex toys. And it’s no good saying, “But *I’m* really interested in

haptic vagina

Did you see it? The blog post from an engineer who was frustrated by the shortcomings of her remote control vibrator, so she hacked her vagina – not in the axe-related icky way, but in the geek way. She built a remote control for her very nice bullet vibe that used not a dial or a lever, but the movement of the operator’s hand over and around the remote control. Watch the video: I won’t claim I understand any of the engineering involved – I’m a social scientist who never understood calculus, chemistry, or physics, it’s just not how my

nuts and bolts of masturbation

It’s rare, these days, that I get asked a basic nuts-and-bolts question, but recently a student asked me just precisely what is it a female-bodied person DOES to masturbate and have an orgasm. Here are the highlights of the blog post I wrote for her: There are many different ways to masturbate, but as a beginning, let’s imagine you’re lying on your back, naked in bed. (You can also try lying on your stomach with your hands clamped between your legs, lying on your side, a pillow locked between your thighs, or standing up in the shower, with the water

has masturbation hurt you?

I was talking to a group of students when one of them raised their hand and asked, “Is masturbation bad for you?” I was not alone is looking at her like she was slightly nuts; I try not to judge under any circumstances, but sometimes people ask questions that surprise me so much that I’m startled. I mean, have we not gotten to the point where we all actually know that there are no physical detriments, and may indeed be some physical benefits, from self-pleasuring? It turns out she had a guest speaker in one of her classes. A Muslim