A quick science tidbit before the weekend begins: a question someone asked at the end of my quick 10 question survey about the best non-fiction sex books you’ve read (feel free to participate if you haven’t). The person asked, “Do most men really have a stronger sex drive than most women?” This is one of [...]
So. In the same way that romance novels often (not always) reinforce the idea that excellent sex emerges from creative, athletic technique and large, frequent orgasms, magazine covers ubiquitously tell us that orgasm and technique are the keys to avoiding mediocrity in bed. A few examples from a Google Image search for “Cosmo Magazine”: The [...]
I spent most of the day home in bed with a norovirus that’s been making the rounds. (I used to be a person who never got ANYTHING. Where did that go? How did I become the person who gets EVERYTHING?) Now I’m watching one of my favorite movies, “Keeping Mum.” Context: wife feels sexually neglected [...]
A neat blog post from Brian Mustanski over at Psychology Today, about a study on frequency of thoughts about sex. It’s a neat study that asked participants to press a clicker each time they thought about either food, sex, or sleep – depending which group they were in. (Brian is another Kinsey alum, so I [...]
You can tell I’m on vacation by all the mainstream media I’m consuming. Next up: River Monsters. It might be the sexiest show on television, and no I am not being sarcastic. My sister introduced me to it maybe a month ago, and I assured her that there was no way I’d get into it. [...]
I have had a totally INTENSE past few days. On Thursday I did a talk on positive sexuality that resulted in a half dozen women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s, discussing places to find women-friendly porn and erotica. Totally great. And I gave about 15 seconds of advice about fellatio (“Don’t neglect the scrotum [...]
In the comments related to my last post, Ian said: …if a woman took sex off the table up front, as you [Emily] are advocating, my interest in cultivating her as a friend usually diminished dramatically afterwards. I think that runs true of most men. If I went on a date with a woman who [...]
Last year I wrote a post about orgasm differences between men and women and also more global sexual differences between men and women, and differences is something that has come up a lot in the last couple weeks, so here’s some more: Women change more across their lifespans. What they find pleasurable changes (often from [...]
I discovered a MAJOR pedagogical fail last week. My course is called Women’s Sexuality, so I began my first lecture with the questions: What is sex? and What is a woman? Right? Because it’s Women’s Sexuality, see? Sex, I ultimately told them after some collective brainstorming, is an evolutionarily adaptive strategy for reproducing, involving the [...]
Here is a handjob tip that causes people’s eyes to widen and their heads to tilt thoughtfully to one side. As I’ve mentioned before, the shaft of the penis extends deep inside a man’s body. Much can be done with this fact. So why not do this: once he’s got his erection, lay him on [...]