Apr 082010

By request: Is there a honeymoon phase? Does it end? Yes. And yes. The honeymoon phase is made of attachment, the wildly powerful biological experience we tend to call “falling in love.” (I’m such a romantic, eh?) It can last, oh, maybe about 4 years, give or take. It has to end. That passionate phase [...]

Mar 012010
loving the wrong person... or species.

I just came across this and I had to share it. So, go download this brilliant Radiolab episode and fastforward to minute 52. There you’ll find the story of a wildlife photographer who fell in love with a leopard seal. You’ll notice him describing the symptoms of attachment – he can’t wait to see her [...]

Feb 182010

This came up on three separate occasions today, so it seems the fates want me to post about it: To end a relationship, you really must have no contact. Because remember attachment? Breaking up is about breaking the attachment, which… well it hurts. That’s just true and there’s not a lot to do about it. [...]

Feb 062010

College students, man. They ask the best and the hardest questions. This is what they asked me yesterday: “When you’re really interested in someone and then you get into a relationship with them and all your interest just evaporates… why does that happen?” Dude, why not just ask me why we have to die, or [...]