I’ve announced it to most of my family, he’s announced it to his, so now I can tell ya’ll: We’re getting married. And by we I mean the romantic euphemism and me. We’re getting married. To each other. He finds my degrees sexy. I find his credit score a turn on. He’s hilarious and creative; [...]
So 2012 is apparently the year of Emily Not Posting Very often. First it was January, which, ya know, is fucking January. Then the spring semester, which was WOAH LIKE WOAH. Then there’s now, which has been taken over by some excitingly dull domestic stuff (details later). Sorry about that. One example of this domestic [...]
Can I tell you guys about this metaphor I’ve been building with a student? I think it’s pretty useful. It’s like this: Think of your mind as a garden. When you’re born, you’ve got this space, this rich and fertile soil, and all this potential. And your family and your culture start to plant things. [...]
One of my earliest posts on the blog was about responsive desire, the phenomenon of not being really interested in sex until sex (or something sexy) has already started. It’s crucially important to understand this, since the mistaken belief that “desire” is “supposed” to be spontaneous – like, you’re walking down the street or having [...]
The romantic euphamism is doing a Kickstarter project related to his comic, and it has been wildly successful, funded 1,000% over its original goal in the first 8 (out of 30) days, so you can rest assured that I’m not writing a post about it because he, like, desperately needs more support: (If you’re not [...]
Did a relationship talk today. Walked away realizing that I really ought to have spent the entire 50 minutes having them practice the basic sentence we all need to know in order to solve conflict in relationships: “When you say/do X, I feel Y.” Not blame, not anger, just a statement of reality. It just [...]
Ugh. So this has been me sick in bed with some horrible plague that’s going around campus. TWO WEEKS of snot and aching and struggling to keep my lungs where they belong, in the face of great resistance on the part of said lungs. UGH!! Anyway. That’s how I’ve been lately. How are you? While [...]
This year I’m participating in the annual Hot Chocolate Run here in western Mass, which benefits Safe Passage, our local domestic violence shelter. It’ll be me and 5,499 others, running or walking through the relatively affluent streets of Northampton, MA, to raise money and awareness around intimate partner violence. Shall I give you some statistics [...]
So it was frickin’ freezing this morning when I went to run the dog. Literally. It was 30 degrees. So I piled on the thermals and the earwarmers and the legwarmers and the gloves and I pulled a windproof skirt over my fleecy yoga pants, plus a neck gaiter, and I pulled a neon yellow [...]
So here’s a question I get pretty regularly: I can’t make my partner come from oral sex. They say they’ve never come from oral sex and that they aren’t particularly interested in it. But I really want to make them come from oral sex. What can I do? And I get it from everyone, regardless [...]