[trigger warning for discussion of sexual violence] Shortly before (but unrelated to) my post about men’s non-concordant physiological response to sexual violence, the Good Men Project posted an article called Nice Guys Commit Rape Too. (SIDENOTE: Some writers, when discussing this issue, choose not to link to the original article so as not to give [...]
This post is a kind of “preview” of a chunk of the book, because I want ya’ll’s feedback. It’s about arousal non-concordance in men, a subject that gets virtually no attention from me on the blog because (1) no one ever asks me about it and (2) it’s so important a factor in women’s sexuality [...]
It’s World AIDS Day, so can I talk about the new regulation in California, mandating the use of condoms in the production of sexually explicit media? Yeah, I think it’s a good idea. Because I believe in evidence-based public health. I realize I might be setting myself up for a shitstorm, but ya know when [...]
Most of the time when people ask if being a sex educator means I have a better sex life, I reply, “Knowledge is power.” Being well-informed about sex makes me more relaxed, more creative, and more confident about sex. But there’s an exception. When I spend a lot of time doing sexual assault stuff – [...]
Annie Sprinkle visited campus recently and, among a variety of other fun things, she led a Sidewalk Sex Clinic, during which she was unambiguously the star of the show. We fellow sex educators were giving generic advice and education, as you do, but Annie? She was doing Sex Tarot readings. And she was a HIT. [...]
Yeah, I watched the debate Tuesday night, and then this happened (and subsequently got covered by Jezebel), raising awareness of rape culture dynamics at Amherst College. To be clear, I don’t work at Amherst College, but I do work with the Amherst College folks. I know they’ve been going through a review process ever since [...]
That silence was the sound of me buying a house, getting married, planting a vegetable garden, having a backyard fence installed, and preparing for the start of the new semester. The silence that will follow is the sound of the semester starting. Oy, here it comes. And this little bit of noise in between the [...]
(so, trigger warning, of course) I’m not a comedian – I’m too interested in precision to be funny – but I’m engaged to one. We have this adorable dynamic (which I’m sure he’ll get sick of one day and I’ll wake up with a spoon in my eye socket) where he says something funny, and [...]
I’ve been wondering whether or not to say anything about the whole Michigan vagina thing – but what really is there to say? Those guys are stupid fucking idiots, perpetuating a sex negative culture that maintains a stigma against healthy, normal sexual and reproductive health, which results in people not having access to basic resources, [...]
I’ve been thinking more about the position of anti-sex-positive feminists, and I’ve come up with this analogy. Tell me what you think: What if I told you I were “FOOD POSITIVE?” What would you assume I meant? Me, I’d assume that “food positive” meant something like, “I enjoy food and desire to have a positive, [...]