Our Bodies, Ourselves is raising $100,000 to supports it efforts in promoting women’s health around the world, using evidence-based health education. OBOS was the first book that taught me that I and my female body are normal. Obviously, I love them. In order to support them beyond just making a donation, I’m offering this incentive for any of you who also donte! Want a free copy of Come as You Are? Want additional sex positive goodies? I AM HERE TO HELP. It’s simple: Contribute to OBOS. As much or as little feels right to you. Email me at enagoski at gmail
YOU GUYS. Come as You Are was nominated as one of the top 15 Goodreads Best Science & Technology Book of 2015. This is not a category where you expect to find a sex advice book, so I’m really, really excited – plus it means I’m in the same category as Oliver Sacks’s On the Move, which, if you haven’t read it, is a charming and beautiful book and way more likely to actually win. Also, everyone check out Rachel Swaby’s Headstrong: 52 women who changed science – and the world. Anyway, it’s my first ever book prize nomination, so
In her article at Salon, Rachel Kramer Bussel saved us all the trouble of comprehensively rebutting UFC Women’s Bantamweight Champion Ronda Rousey’s terrible advice to Maxim readers that using lube is “lazy.” If you don’t know why using lube is not just often very pleasurable but also necessary for the health and wellbeing of a person’s body, read Rachel’s piece – and maybe watch this two minute video about arousal nonconcordance: Lube is very often your friend! I know it’s mine! So all that’s left for us is to counteract Ronda’s lube-shaming with some lube pride! This calls for a hashtag.
A lot of people in my social media have posted this New York Magazine article about the failure of feminism in the cultural dialogue about consent. The article – titled “The Game Is Rigged: Why sex that’s consensual can still be bad. And why we’re not talking about it” begins with this example of, one supposes, bad but consensual sex: “I have so much to drink my memory becomes dark water, brief flashes when I flicker up for air,” Gattuso wrote. “I’m being kissed. There’s a boy, then another boy. I keep asking if I’m pretty. I keep saying yes.”
Hey everybody, in about two hours, I’ll spend 12 minutes at Chicago Ideas Week explaining responsive desire and why Flibanserin is bogus. Hilariously, I go on about two hours after Cindy Whitehead, (BRILLIANT) CEO of the company that shepherded the drug through FDA approal, who spoke in a “Medical Breakthroughs” session. Chicago Ideas Week tweeted her talk this way: Science won…and so did women. @SproutPharma #CIWMedical #CIW — Chicago Ideas (@chicagoideas) October 17, 2015 Well. My job is to bring the science, free of any profit motive. I’ll be mentioning some Sciencey Facty-Facts, so I’m taking this opportunity
Fifteen years ago, in Indiana, I participated in GLSEN’s “Day of Silence.” What you do is: you don’t talk. You don’t say anything. It’s to raise awareness around bullying and harassment of LGBTQ folks. Two things happened that day that I remember every year on National Coming Out Day: 1. I went to the hardware store. I forget what I was looking for, but I remember that I couldn’t find it. And because I was being silent, I couldn’t ask for help. I couldn’t ask for help. 2. I met someone new who struggled to pronounce
It’s tricky to write a review of a book that includes a review of my own book – including this, from pg. 210: But this page perfectly illustrates (ha, see what I did there?) what I love about Erika Moen’s work: (1) ALL BODIES ARE INCLUDED. NO, I MEAN F’REALZ. All the bodies are included, welcome, and celebrated. (2) She nails the key points about the science – and then she puts it in a graphic format that makes it more relatable than all the metaphors and stories that I can harness. I can’t talk about desire anymore, without talking
I’ve been getting a lot of emails lately from people who are struggling with sex in a wide variety of ways: My partner wants to have sex but I’m not sure I’m ready, but I also feel bad about the fact that I’m not ready. and I look back at all the sex I’ve had and I realize that I was only having it because I felt like I was supposed to, and now I realize I don’t even know what sex is supposed to feel like. and My partner and I love each other but have