arousal nonconcordance, in two minutes

Have you tried to explain arousal nonconcordance to your partner, a friend, or a stranger in a coffee shop? ME TOO. Have you wished there were just, like, a 2 minute video you could send them that would summarize it? Well now there is! As with all quick summaries, it leaves out a buncha details, but the basics are all there! Share and enjoy, friends.

anatomy: Columella nasi

anatomy:  Columella nasi

I learned another vocabulary word: Columella nasi: It’s the thing that splits your nostrils.   It is a very, very, very intimate place to touch. And lick. And it’s generally a good plan to make sure the person has a good sense of humor.   Just an idea, in case you’re looking for something to do tonight.  

LOVE illuminated

LOVE illuminated

Friends, the very first event of my Confident Hair Flip Book Tour will be in Springfield, MA on Wednesday, February 4 at 6:30, on the Western New England University campus. Here’s the Facebook event, where you’ll find the address.   And here is the poster I made, of which I am very proud!   What, you ask, is a “lecture-recital”? It means I’ll be teaching the science of falling in love, and four singers – soprano, alto, tenor, bass – and a pianist will illustrate each important scientific concept with a song from a Broadway musical! So for example: Anxious attachment

anatomy: rasceta

anatomy: rasceta

I have learned a new word. I’m excited about it, and I want to share it with you.   Ready?   It’s: Rasceta: The lines on the back of your wrist   It’s pronounced a bit like “receipt-ah.” The skin of the wrist and forearm is wired to have poor spatial acuity, but pretty darn good sensitivity to light touch. Translation: the rasceta want you to touch them with the very, very tips of your fingers, and with your tongue and lips.   That is all.

get your nerd on, live and in person! [UPDATED]

Okay friends, here we are 40 days before pub date! My book tour schedule is perilously close to full, and I want to share it with you all, in the special hopes that blog readers will come talk to me. Do you comment on the blog, but I wouldn’t know you on the street unless you came up to me and started talking about the dual control model? Do you read the blog but never comment but tell your friends about meta-emotions whenever they start dismissing their own emotions? Are you a former student of mine who’s been talking about

one bit of orgasm advice that actually helps

one bit of orgasm advice that actually helps

As of today, we are 50 days away from the release of my book, which I can’t shut up about because I genuinely believe it’ll change people’s lives for the better. In celebration, I wanted to tell you about an email I received recently – one of those wonderful emails that tell you you’re doing something right. I was doing a Q&A with a group of students and we got to talking about orgasm – you know, as you do – and in particular we talked about what to do when you notice yourself struggling with orgasm. I said, “There’s this thing

female ejaculation, and the problem with “average”

A fascinating study (Nature and Origin of “Squirting” in Female Sexuality) was just published on female ejaculation. It was the first such study I’ve seen that concluded that “squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity” – indeed, the research I’ve seen before has said just the reverse. So of course I read it with interest! It turns out the headline is way more interesting, but also way more complicated, than “it’s urine.”   First, a brief summary of the research: The participants were seven women who had experienced ejaculation. They emptied their bladders – this was verified with

stump the sex educator: lots and lots of pre-cum, with male anorgasmia

I got this question in my email, and since I don’t know the answer – I have a couple of hypotheses, but nothing approaching certainty – I asked for and received permission to share the question with you lovely readers. If you have an idea what the answer might be, would you put it in the comments? If you know someone who might have an idea, would you forward it to them? Please share widely! I am a 51 year old woman, with a 52 year old boyfriend who is anorgasmic. He totally loves sex, he is a fantastic, attentive