Emily Judges: William Trufant Foster (1914)

Emily Judges: William Trufant Foster (1914)

William Trufant Foster‘s probably well-intended “Social Emergency” is a genuinely superb example of its genre. It offers its own excellent summary: If there is one dominant truth in this volume, it is that any plan for meeting the social emergency that would relax the control of moral and spiritual law over sex impulses is antagonistic, not only to physical health, but as well to the highest development of personality and to the progressive evolution of human society. Yowza. The preface feels particularly poignant to me. It reads (in part): This volume is the outgrowth of an extension course conducted by

“the worst sin passion can commit…”

“the worst sin passion can commit…”

“[T]he worst sin – perhaps the only sin – passion can commit is to be joyless. It must lie down with laughter or makes its bed in hell – there is no middle way…” – Dorothy Sayers I found this animated .gif while I was looking for the Bill Nye one, and I have adopted it and brought it home and given it a spot to sleep at the foot of my own bed. Confidence and joy! I say it over and over again, you guys, because it’s just so totally true. Try it out just hypothetically at first, if it

the brain science of pleasure for #sfs14

I’ve spent a full day at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit’s Friday institute, Let’s Talk about Sex: The Pleasure Principle. It was amazing – see my twitter feed for my incessant quote tweets – and there was something I was bouncing in my seat about the whole time, just DYING to say it. I’m not a speaker and I’m just about the biggest introvert on the face of the earth, so rather than go down and talk to everyone about this exciting, important idea, I’m writing this blog post first. Okay, so here’s what I was bouncing in my seat

Emily judges: Henry Stanton

Emily judges: Henry Stanton

Combining my precarious new skills with Photoshop and my VERY FAVORITE of all my author headshots – which would otherwise go unused and unappreciated in a folder on my desktop – I give you, “Emily Judges.” In the process of writing the book, I read oh-so-many sex guides, from as far back as the eighteenth century, and dooood, they said SO MANY THINGS that made me give stink eye. SO MANY. And now I can share those things with you, through the wonders of technology. I’ve been trying to learn about the authors of these books, and the astonishing thing

the one thing that makes sex education dangerous

the one thing that makes sex education dangerous

This week I’m off to the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and in honor of that, let’s look at what we know about what happens when people learn about sex: In a 1976 New York Times article (paywall), a 43 year old woman recounts how she had never had an orgasm, had never even considered the idea of her own sexual pleasure, until one evening not too long ago she was babysitting for a friend… and she picked up a sex book that happened to be sitting on the shelf. She said, “I learned, to my infinite surprise, that females could have orgasms, too. I was

SURVEY SAYS: 3 features of the best compliments a man can give a woman

A couple weeks ago I created a short, informal survey about how men can approach women with compliments. In a series of posts this week, I’ll talk about the top 3 things these results suggest. Lesson #1 was:  Touching a woman without her permission is a great way to squick her out. Lesson #2 was: Telling her you find her attractive could go either way – depending mostly on whether she’s attracted to you.   Lesson #3 is: The best compliments are: GENIUNE, SPECIFIC, and NONPHYSICAL     Before we go any further with this, allow me offer a gigantic CAVEAT LECTOR: This survey is

SURVEY SAYS: Compliment a woman’s appearance only when she’s already into you.

A couple weeks ago I created a short, informal survey about how men can approach women with compliments. In a series of posts this week, I’ll talk about the top 3 things these results suggest. Lesson #1 was:  Touching a woman without her permission is a great way to squick her out.   Lesson #2 is:   Telling her you find her attractive could go either way – depending mostly on whether she’s attracted to you.   Before we go any further with this, allow me reiterate my gigantic CAVEAT LECTOR:This survey is not science. (1) The questions were made up based on things that